The English language does not have a word that is the opposite of gratitude. Oh there are words like thankless and ingrate but these have as their root word the very thing we’re trying to deny. Imagine how ungainly our language would be if we had to describe all opposites this way. Say we had to use unfriend instead of enemy and delove instead of hate or non-aromatic instead of stinking. There’s just no venom in:
“I delove my nonaromatic unfriends!”
I don’t think this is a gap in the English language. I think it tells us that being ungrateful is not a thing in and of itself but is merely the lack of something. Just as darkness is not a thing but is the absence of light. No matter how dark the cave the tiniest candle flame defeats it.
A friend and I once took flashlights and explored an abandoned mine shaft in the steep mountains west of Ketchum. We hiked a quarter mile into the mountain and upon reaching the end of the shaft we turned out our flashlights. Being a city boy I had never experienced such absolute darkness so that even my hand waved in front of my face was invisible. My mind however was having none of this nothingness. Colors, blobs, streaks, and flashes of “light” filled my eyes as we stood daring each other to keep our lights off a little longer.
While a floodlight and a glowing ember put out vastly different levels of light both make the nothingness of darkness go away. I assert that in the same way, flowers with cards and a simple “thanks” both dispel the nothingness that is ingratitude.
This may sound like an excuse to do the bare minimum. Lazy husbands like me around the world would do happy back flips over this news. My point though is to understand what it means to lack gratitude. It means you are nothing.
Just because that little candle flame erases darkness hasn’t stopped mankind from developing better and brighter ways to do that. While they say “a little thanks goes a long way” our human desire for perfection– that longing for the lost Eden– should drive us to seek greater and brighter means of saying THANK YOU.
What would praise and worship be without gratitude? Nothing. At the very core of our trembling approaches to God is a thankful heart. We extol our great and infinite God but mixed in with that is the amazed thanks that He has anything to do with little ol’ us at all. We seek to imitate His goodness and perfection yet we can only be grateful for his mercy and forgiveness at our failures. We need His holiness to power our lives but can only be thankful that He stoops to share it with us at all.
I attended a Nazarene church yesterday which is a denomination that was spawned in the 19th century American Holiness Movement. This movement came out of a desire among Methodists to recapture the evangelical emotion and spirit of the tent revival meetings that helped grow their church in the first place. They also sought to reemphasize John Wesley’s teachings on Christian perfection.
Now by “perfection” Wesley did not mean “sinless” rather he meant the state of choosing not to sin. It is not a permanent thing because we are subject to temptation. The Holiness Movement replaced the word “perfection” with “holiness” and said this “second work of grace” after salvation cleansed us of the tendency to sin. The Holy Spirit makes it possible to be constantly obedient. They called it Entire Sanctification and said the saved soul was no longer under the influence of original sin and could lead a holy life without willful sin.
This movement was not popular with the Methodist leadership and so new denominations were born, one of which is the Church of the Nazarene.
The tendency at this point, if you’re from a different faith tradition, is to try to shoot this idea full of holes. We can call it a works theology or accuse them of legalism or whip out the names of this or that heresy; but if you listen to what they actually say, as opposed to how their unfriends characterize them, we see they are trying to describe the mysterious work of the Holy Spirit in our lives.
If you read the Nazarene website you see that they don’t say anything like: you will know you are saved if you don’t sin. Instead they are very careful to distinguish between this holy perfection worked in us by God as a gift and the up and down lifetime maturing process that is the real experience of most Christians. What we do to become holy is a response to something God has first done in us. Which brings us back to thankfulness because it is a response too.
If we look at holiness as an expression of thanks we see it is not a means to an end but is the end God has granted us through Jesus Christ. Holiness is how we participate in the Kingdom of God that is right now. It is not a life of nothingness but a Christian expression of the something called gratitude.
The rousing sermon yesterday was on gratitude and was based on the encounter between Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4:1-42. We were told one response to this story should be gratitude for the promise Christ makes to us when we come to Him: that we will never thirst, our souls will be fed, and our hearts filled. Another response is thankfulness that the Father is actively seeking people to save so like Jesus we should break through the prejudices of our day and associate ourselves with anybody who needs to hear of His saving grace. And finally we should respond with thanks that the Holy Spirit has given us a new purpose: to share the good news of Jesus Christ with the world. It is amazing that God has given each of us a share in the business of His Kingdom.
What the Nazarene’s say is common to all Christianity really; holiness is not a negative thing: not sinning, but a positive thing: loving God and our neighbors. Holiness is a response to something God has done for us; holiness is an expression of gratitude.
Now that the Thanksgiving holiday is over we can stop talking about gratitude for another year. What a relief. Or rather, what a year of nothingness that would be, like all those empty pie pans. I delove it when the pie is all gone.
May our lives be filled to overflowing with holy gratitude.